5 ways to help kids deal with moving

I spent my entire childhood, teenage years and college years living in the same home. It wasn’t until I got married that I moved somewhere new. This, however, is not the norm. In fact, in most cases, families rarely spend over 15 years in the same home. Sooner or later, everyone thinks about moving. However, thinking about moving isn’t the same and actually moving. I mean everyone fantasizes about moving. Yet some of us do have to make the decision to move our families. Whatever your reasons may be, moving is never an easy decision especially when children are involved. For this reason, you want to make sure the whole family is in on the decision so that no one feels left out. Moving is an experience that is both exciting and stressful for everyone, and it’s often the children who feel the most stressed and confused. Why? Well, because children (especially young children) have strong attachments to the home they live in.In some cases, the young children are more attached to the home than their parents are.
Here are five ways we helped our kids deal with moving:
1. Plan your future together
The most important thing to remember is that you need to ensure that your children feel involved in the process. Taking them along to see different homes is a plus. They will enjoy tagging along and love that they have some input in the new home they are going to live in. We did this with our children and they said it helped because even though they were sad about moving they were kind of looking forward to finding a new home together.
2. Let them help plan their rooms
During the moving process, the whole family tends to be a bit sentimental. It’s hard for some to leave behind what they know. As the parent,  you can help lift their spirits by creating a little bit of excitement. We found it helpful to let the children choose their bedrooms in the new house before you move in. Have them choose the color, theme, furniture etc. This will get them excited about the new house.
3.  Mentally prepare them for the move
Try not to rush into moving with children it is best to ease into your plans of moving. Ideally, you should begin to prepare them at least a month in advance. You’d want them to be prepared for the move but you don’t want to give them so much time to they find themselves getting overwhelmed about it. Sometimes, time is of the essence and you might not have the amount of time you would like to have. If you find that you need to have the conversation sooner than you thought just remember to talk them through it.
4. Cherish the memories you had at the old home
Please reassure your kids that it is okay to feel sad about moving. Let them know that the memories you made in the old home should be cherished and that together you will make new memories. It is important to have this conversation early on. Encourage your child to express his/her thoughts on moving. Ask if they are excited, sad, or a little bit of both? Reassure them that moving house can be an exciting period, and it can be difficult for young children to realize what they’re going to miss about their old home. It might help to make a memory book and add pictures of the rooms, yard and other rooms that they’ll miss so much.
5. Reassure them that everything is going to be okay
It’s common for your children (especially the young ones) to experience some tantrums.  This might led an already stressed parent to be more stressed but please keep in mind that if moving has been stressful for you, then imagine what your children are feeling. Therefore it is of the utmost importance that you be patient with your children. Make sure they understand that you accept their feeling and will do anything you can to make the move a smooth transition for everyone. We must also reassure them that moving to a new house can be an exciting/sad time and that it is okay for them to feel a little bit of both. However, please remember that moving can be difficult for young children to realize what they’re going to miss about their old home. Make a scrapbook together before moving, let them use your smartphone to take pictures of the rooms they’ll miss so much, and explain that the most important aspects of their family life will stay the same even though you’re moving.


42 thoughts on “5 ways to help kids deal with moving

  1. Oh man. I will always remember my first house……. I remember telling my parents I never want to move and then literally 2 months later we were moving – LOL! I do not remember the packing process AT ALL, I just remember getting to the new house and loving it, but… Always loving my old house a little bit more!
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  2. We are getting ready to move soon and I have been doing this pretty much the last few months. My kids are all excited about the getting a new room, so I think that really does help. I will try incorporating some of these other tips into our move.

  3. You offer some great tips for helping kids deal with moving. I could have used some of your ideas a few years ago when we had a temporary move!
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  4. Nguyen Hai Ngan

    Moving is an unforgettable experience that can be sometime eager, exciting, stressful, attached,.. especially for those who are extremely sensitive like children. We have to prepare carefully for this process to lead a new satisfactory life on a new house. Thank u for your 5 ways to prepare for a moving process. I will take it into account whenever I have to go on a moving!

  5. I moved so many times when I was a kid that it became expected to not stay in the same house for longer than a year! The packing is a nightmare. Good tips!
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  6. These are some great tips !! I remembering my parents including in our moving process which made it fun and exciting for me !! I even got to pick out paint colors are the new house which i loved 🙂

  7. This is such an accurate description for moving with kids. As an army brat, I can tell you it’s important to work together as a unit and focus on the collective future.

  8. It was exciting moving!Good thing I did not have to pack my room!😸 (I was away)

  9. Ahh that’s a great post! We recently moved into the oldhouse (18 months ago now) and although my children were 15 and 13 at the time and very so excited, they said they miss their own home but have lovely memories of living there. #blogstravaganza.

  10. Really good tips. We are planning on moving over the next year or two. We have mentioned it to our daughter and each time the subject is brought up we get a different response. Sometimes she gets upset about leaving her home and sometimes she is planning her new room and what we’ll do in the new house!
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  11. Moving is rough all around and your tips are important steps to take to ease the anxiety kids feel about moving. We moved quite a bit when I was a kid and my parents made it sound exciting…. like we were going on an adventure.

  12. I moved with my son but he was only around 18 months at the time, the move didn’t seem to bother him. when I was younger we moved A LOT, from moving houses to moving countries and I didn’t really enjoy it even though now as a grown up I’m very grateful that I lived in so many different places #Blogstravaganza

  13. I think you have to let kids be involved in the move, especially if it involves them leaving their school and friends too.

  14. Moving home can be so stressful for everyone involved, these are great tips to help families get through! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx

  15. I have to admit that moving is always stressful. The entire process of packing and then having to unpack and for me it is just me and my cat haha. I moved twice this year already moved here to Albuquerque and then moved apps a few month after i moved.

  16. My two littles have always lived in the same house. You’ve shared some really great tips to help kids cope with a move and I think these would be very helpful for us should we ever move.

  17. I lived in my family home from birth all the way up to my mid 20s and my parents still live there now. Moving house is a big things, and it must effect children. Love the idea of a memory book!

  18. Been there, done that! Moving for us was a lot easier on the kids than it was for mama! These are great tips!

  19. Chanel van Reenen

    luckily we haven’t had to move yet with kids, but I can image how hard and emotional it can be. These are very useful tips that would come in handy with a partner as well!

  20. I totally agree with all of these! We’ve moved a lot in the past years since I used to serve in the military and that’s how it usually is. I think it’s important to get them involved at all times. Great tips!

  21. Nice tips to make the moving easier
    with children! Keep blogging!

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